The Dark Side of Positivity: Understanding and Overcoming Toxic Positivity

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Toxic Positivity

Toxic positivity is the idea that one should always maintain a positive outlook, regardless of the circumstances. Unfortunately, while positivity can be a powerful force in helping us navigate life’s challenges, toxic positivity can have harmful effects on our mental health and well-being. This is because it dismisses and invalidates our negative emotions, leaving us feeling like we have to suppress them in order to fit in or be accepted.

Toxic Positivity and the signs

The Dangers of Toxic Positivity

Suppressing our negative emotions can lead to several negative consequences, including increased stress, anxiety, and even physical or mental health problems. When we suppress our emotions, we deny a fundamental aspect of our humanity. This can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation as we struggle to maintain an unrealistic façade of constant positivity.

Overcoming Toxic Positivity

Overcoming toxic positivity requires a willingness to acknowledge and embrace our negative emotions. This means allowing ourselves to feel sad, angry, or frustrated when we need to, without judgment or self-criticism. It also means being honest and authentic with ourselves and others and recognizing that it is okay to not be okay sometimes.

The Importance of Emotional Support

Having a strong support system can be incredibly helpful in overcoming toxic positivity. This may include family, friends, or a therapist who can help us navigate our emotions and provide a safe space for us to be vulnerable. It is essential to surround ourselves with people who validate our emotions and accept us for who we are, rather than who they want us to be.

In conclusion, while positivity can be a powerful force in our lives, it is important to recognize the dangers of toxic positivity and the importance of embracing our negative emotions. By doing so, we can build stronger, more authentic connections with ourselves and others and create a more balanced, fulfilling life. Remember, it is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it is okay to ask for help when we need it.

About Dr. Saarah Nicolas

I’ve experienced trauma firsthand and, through therapy, overcame my fears and found healing. This led me to become a psychologist and offer others emotional freedom. Authenticity builds trust and connection, and I take pride in providing a supportive environment for my clients. If you are ready to begin your journey to healing, I invite you to reach out.
“There often comes a time when we realize that things are not working how we want them to. A time when making a shift in our journey outweighs the comfort of a path that no longer serves us.”

Dr. Saarah Nicolas

Owner and Licensed Psychologist at Mindful Roots Counseling

Through evidence-based approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and mindfulness, I have helped numerous clients manage symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and trauma-related issues. I also have a long history working with Veterans, women, male sexual trauma survivors, LGBTQ+, and BIPOC people.
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Emotions, mental health, Toxic
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